Where am I?
That’s the question I’ve asked myself on waking this past year.
That probably happens to us as we get older, but I’m not that old. Yet.
“Where am I” came as a result of what seemed like constant traveling since June 2016.
A funeral, a birth, a reunion, a contract, another birth, an illness, a visit, more visits, a hospital stay, a conference or two, grandbaby sitting, visits, a 60th anniversary celebration, more visits, oh, and an eclipse. That briefly sums up most of the reasons for my going and going and going. A few times I stayed put. Six weeks were the longest I stayed anywhere and even there I left and returned on short stints.
At least half, or more, of every month our house sat empty, except for the occasional scorpion wandering through or a random spider spinning lies. I was gone so much that we debated moving, on a permanent basis, out-of-state. But the stars didn’t align and it never felt right.
When I was away from home I missed my bed, my friends, my routine. But when I returned I was anxious to leave again. The emptiness of a vacant house can wear on a person. And by vacant, I mean empty of people, not things.
I got in a bunch of amazing hikes though and a couple of campouts. I hiked in the snow as well as in the heat, but most importantly, in the mountains.
I experienced winter, which I haven’t done in decades. It’s a fun novelty when you know you don’t have to endure the full six months of it. Well, it’s fun unless your flight gets cancelled due to the weather and it’s nearly Christmas and company is due at your house that day while you’re in another state. Good times. But then, that resulted in a side trip to see my cousin, which was an unexpected bonus.
Through it all I learned to relish my personal space. Airplanes don’t lend themselves to emotional comfort if you’re an introvert with a fairly expansive personal bubble. (And an expansive backside.) And yet, on the other hand, I learned to cherish hugs and physical touch and actually being in the same room with the people you love. Phone calls and texts and video chats are great, but none of that compensates for the real thing.
I drove a few times to my far off destination. A debate still runs in my head if road trip or air trip is more comfortable, emotionally and physically. Eleven hours in a car can race by if you have an engaging audio book to keep your mind occupied.
Those people who travel as part of their job are troopers. Kudos to them for waking up in a different hotel, city, country, or hovel.
MSH has traveled for work most of our married life. I thought he had the kushy part of that deal, since he left me with the kids and went off to work (and sleep) without constant interruptions and demands. He’d fly home every few weekends to visit us. Until this year I didn’t realize what a drag air travel can become. Until this year I didn’t appreciate all he’d gone through living alone, living away, living out of a suitcase.
I love that man more than ever before after this year’s experiences. I’d prefer keeping our traveling to trips we take together.
Of course, I’ve got to book a flight today for a trip next month. It’s definitely one I’m looking forward to as it involves some of the grands. So when I told a friend I was done traveling, I guess I only meant temporarily.
If home is where my heart is, then I’ve been home this entire past year. My heart is always with MSH. My heart is with my children and grandchildren. My heart is with my parents and siblings. My heart pounds right here in my chest reminding me to live and love life where I stand. No matter where that is.
So, where am I?
I am home.
“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.” ~ Ursula Le Guin
I’m glad you’re home. I spent years traveling like your hubs. It’s not fun. Traveling for all the reasons you’ve been traveling is/isn’t fun as well. In any case, it’s good to see something from you in my inbox.