I know more lonely people than I want to. I wish I had more time, more of me to go around to fill that gap in their life. Or better yet, I’d like to take on the role of matchmaker in the friendship department.
You’d think with all the social media available people would feel more connected and less lonely. But the opposite seems true. People see the “friendships” and banter and simply feel more left out than ever. In fact, it seems to extend the junior high and high school drama into adulthood.
I think people forget that friendship is work. It requires something from both sides. Maybe we’ve all gotten a bit lazy, or too busy, or we’re shy, or we’re afraid of being hurt or judged or rejected, or whatever the excuse is and we fail to reach out. And we fail to accept the hand reaching toward us. You can’t get picky when it comes to friendship. There isn’t an ideal friend, there’s no soul mate of friendship. There are friends. They’ve got your back. That’s all that matters.
Forget “besties” and “BFF’s” and “friends forever.” Those are a dime a dozen.
For real friendship that matters think “workhorse,” or “perseverance,” think “sacrifice.”
“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.” — Jon Katz
There are literally millions of quotes out there about friendship. This one bangs the nail solidly. Friendship equals work! “Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired.”
Work + Sacrifice + Perseverance = Friendship
which translates into:
W + S + P = Not So Lonely
What are you willing to sacrifice? Are you ready to give up security? Are you willing to risk being hurt? Can you take the chance on relationships?
How much work are you able to put into a potential friendship? Can you do a daily phone call? Will you listen and not just expect to be listened to? Are you worth it, in your own eyes?
Can you keep trying even when the results aren’t the ideal you imagined? We’re all simply human after all. Can you resist the need to push away? Can you open your own door to whoever might be knocking?
There’s a ton of info out there about Friendship. Read on:
- Friendship: Aristotle and Cicero (torreybookblog.wordpress.com)
- Sacred Friendships (sacredfriendshipsdivinedestinies.com)
- Levels of friendship (damiology.wordpress.com)
- The Power of Friendship (jacobihaveloved.wordpress.com)
- How to maintain a friendship (101onfriendship.wordpress.com)
- Trend Report: Friendship Bracelets (thezoereport.com)
- Who Are Your True Friends? (lifestylediva.info)
- On Friendship, Pain and Other Cheerful Topics (smartassy.com)
- Tips On How to Maintain A Healthy Friendship (heytherechum.wordpress.com)
- Images of friendship (beautyoffriends.wordpress.com)
Great post. You nailed it. I know I definitely needed to hear this today.
“I think people forget that friendship is work.” – such an important message! I kind of like how friendship takes work because that means it’s all in our hands. We can have close friends if we make it happen. To me, that’s better than friendship being less work, but outside of our control.
And thanks for linking to my blog in your post! 🙂